Q. Guns at a wedding: We hope my brother-in-law will attend our daughter’s wedding, but we fear that he will bring his handgun. He recently commented on social media that he will “never go anywhere without my gun on my person.” The invitations were sent before this comment was made. He has said that he plans to attend the wedding. (The wedding will be out of town, both for us and for my BIL, and is being held at a city park.) Should my husband speak to him? Should we write him a letter expressing our hope that he is present, but that his gun is not welcome? His sister has offered to talk with him as she, too, does not want him to bring a gun. She visited him recently and observed that even when attending his small, rural church he carries his gun at his waist in an unsecured holster. He’s just one of those people who doesn’t want anyone touching his guns. We really don’t want the presence of a gun to spoil our daughter’s wedding!
Who is this nutty uncle? (Could he possibly be the infamous “Florida Man?”) PRO TIP: If you don’t want “anyone touching [your] guns,” keeping them unloaded and locked in a safe is the best way to keep them out of other people’s reach. Walking around with a sidearm only puts your weapon within reach of other people.
What do you think Prudence will say to these haters of the Second Amendment? Go back to
Mexico Afghanistan Iraq Egypt Saudi Arabia Iran if you don’t like our freedoms! How dare you try to impose your weak, liberal values on me? I refuse to be a victim! This wedding protected by Smith & Wesson!
No–Prudie’s answer is straight out of Miss Manners or Emily Post. Short answer even shorter: hosts of weddings are free to plan whatever kind of ceremony with whatever restrictions they like. Invited guests are free not to attend if they don’t like them:
A: It is a reasonable request to ask wedding guests not to bring guns to the ceremony. It should come from the bride- and groom-to-be, and needs no further justification than “We don’t want guns at our wedding; please don’t bring yours with you.” If your daughter would like you and your husband to back them up, you certainly should, but let them make the official request.
It seems insane that brides must be reminded that it is “reasonable” for them “to ask wedding guests not to bring guns to the ceremony.” I’ve never seen guns at a wedding. Even at a shotgun wedding I never saw an actual shotgun.
Some people are determined to take our historically safe and secure United States and ruin it for the rest of us. Gun nuts, anti-vaxxers, school voucher pushers, preppers–please withdraw from normal American society and let the rest of us enjoy nice things like weddings, playgrounds, and public schools.