If any of you can find the disappeared daddies in this article, please let me know. I’m terribly worried about them! Why, I wonder, is no one looking for them or asking them to do anything, not even apparently their own wives and children?
It sounds to me like Sheryl Sandberg’s and Marissa Mayer’s advice is for people who want to succeed in the real world now. Even if the U.S. abandons its history and temperament to offer free child care to all children from birth to age 6, that still won’t completely level the playing field between men and women (although it certainly would help!)
Here’s the raw truth: Just as you can’t have 0% body fat in your 40s unless you’re spending 6 hours a day working out, you can’t get to be a COO or CEO if you’re picking up the kids after school every day. This is an utterly ridiculous expectation. Demands for “flex time” for mommies only, even if successful, are just another way of mommy tracking people. There’s a reason ambitious men choose partners who aren’t equally ambitious and who are happy to pick the children up after school. Women need to be cannier about the men they partner with if they want to be on the COO or CEO track.